In this Article by John Chancellor we’ll look at the top 5 reasons why your emotional intelligence determines your success in life.
1. EQ has a greater impact on success than other factors.
It has been said that your IQ can land you a job, but your lack of EQ can get you fired.
Your IQ only accounts for 20% of your success in life.
Your emotional intelligence and social intelligence are much greater determinants of the success you will achieve in life.
2. The ability to delay gratification is a primary indicator of future success.
Delayed gratification is the top predictor of future success. People who are able to pay the price today and delay the rewards are much more likely to succeed in life. Unfortunately, we have become a nation seeking instant gratification. This shows up in our everyday lives in the foods we choose to eat, the buy-now-pay-later way of life, our difficulty in adhering to an exercise regimen, and putting mindless entertainment ahead of self-development.
3. High EQ leads to healthy relationships with others.
Our emotional skills have a direct and important bearing on our relationships with others.
We need to understand our feelings, where they come from, and how to properly express them.
We will not maintain healthy relationships unless we can control our emotions, communicate our feelings in a constructive manner, and understand the feelings of others.
4. Emotional health impacts physical health.
There is a direct connection between our emotional health and our physical health. If our lives are filled with stress, our physical health suffers.
It has been estimated that well over 80% of our health problems are stress-related.
We experience stress primarily because we are not comfortable emotionally.
We need to understand the link between our emotional health and our physical health.
5. Poor EQ is linked to crime and other unethical behaviors.
Unfortunately, there's a direct connection between poor emotional skills and the rising crime rate.
Children who have poor emotional skills become social outcasts at a very young age.
They might become the class bully because of a hot temper. They may have learned to react with fists rather than with reason.
Poor social and emotional skills contribute to poor attention in class as well as feelings of frustration.
Such students rapidly fall behind in school and may tend to make friends with others in the same boat.
The path to crime starts early in life. While there's no doubt that family and environment are strong contributors, the common thread is poor emotional and social skills.
“I have observed that the top students in school aren't necessarily at the top of most positions.
It's mostly people who have good people skills who succeed.” (Anonymous)
Next week we’ll talk about why people skills and controlling our emotions is so important!